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Ninety-nine percent of the Possibilities available to you in this moment are invisible to you.
This is good news! It means that something completely different from this is possible right now.
There are nonlinear and unreasonable ways you can learn to create valuable Possibility for yourself, others, teams, groups, and organizations.
Shall we begin?
How To Create Possibility
By consciously Navigating to certain Spaces, and by Practicing with certain Distinctions and Skills, you can amplify your ability to Create Possibility for yourself, and then for individuals, couples, teams, projects, and organizations.
'Creating Possibility' is one of the core skills in Possibility Management.
If you are in Possibilitator Training, Creating Possibility is your Calling... The world needs you now more than ever before.
WHAT IS POSSIBILITY?
'Possibility' is 'the measurable number of real options that a person, couple, Team, or organization has to choose from'.
Human Beings do not use or want to own possessions or positions for those things alone, but for the Possibility they give us.
For example, I put on a white shirt this morning. Any long sleeve white shirt would have protected me from the sun and allowed me to appear professional during a Zoom call. If it was a branded white shirt, then the brand would have given me the additional Possibility of 'looking cool' to anyone who recognized and appreciated that brand. The point is that it was not actually the shirt that I wanted. What I wanted is all the Possibilities that this shirt gives me. This is the same with my laptop, my Beep! Book, my pen, my roller bag, and the communication skills I used to negotiate with my partner to bake a Banana Bread to share at coffee time together.
Possibility is the most valuable stuff in the Universe.
Possibilitators (e.g. Possibility Managers) develop skills to create Possibility when there is not enough, and to destroy Possibility when there is too much. This is how they manage Possibility.
There are zillions of situations where Possibility needs to be managed, and gazillions of ways to create and delete Possibility. We will explore those domains here.
In addition, this website provides clarity about - and demonstration videos of - Possibility being created and destroyed for individuals and couples during actual Possibility Coaching sessions. Tools from Possibility Mediation, Possibility Psychology, Feelings Practitioners, and Memetic Engineering are also used.
ONE OF THE 7 CORE SKILLS OF A 'POSSIBILITATOR'
To be clear, the verb 'to possibilitate' means 'to render possible'. This term was first recorded in writing in the The Quarterly Review: Principles of Elementary Teaching, January/April 1829, page 134 edited by Sir John Taylor Coleridge et. al.
A 'possibilitator' is, therefore, 'one who possibilitates'.
The term 'Possibilitator', spelled with a capital 'P', is intended to mean 'a possibilitator who consciously possibilitates in the service of Bright Principles, and in the Possibility Management Context of Radical Responsibility'.
There are seven Core Skills to deepen in Possibilitator Training:
The discovery and liberation of each Core Skill in yourself changes who you are.
By the time you are applying all seven Core Skills, the world works differently for you. You are living in the world of a Possibilitator if you:
- LIVE PRESENT IN A SMALL NOW: Shift Identity to Possibility Manager and Become Present in a small Now.
- CENTER IN RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY: Become Centered, Grounded, Bubbled and Unhookable in the Radical Responsibility Context of Archiarchy, including being able to Go Stellar in 4 Feelings.
- CREATE AND NAVIGATE SPACE: Create, Hold, and Navigate Space (Set Context, Make Distinctions, and Open Doorways).
- CREATE AUTHENTIC CONTACT: Make Contact (Experientially Distinguish Box and Being, Authentically connect Being to Being, keeping your Gremlin on a leash ready at your side to consciously serve you as you create Possibility).
- ACCESS NONLINEARITY AND UNREASONABILITY: Jack-into Nonlinear and Unreasonable resources, both inside and outside of yourself.
- CREATE POSSIBILITY: Create Linear and Nonlinear Possibility for yourself, for others, for pairs, for organizations, and for projects.
- CREATE LEGENDS: Do the sort of Legend Making that creates waves for people to surf back to you because they are attracted to the services you provide through your Archetypal Lineage.
This website is dedicated to you learning to Create Linear and Nonlinear Possibility so that you can serve as a Possibilitator who is the intersection of your Archetypal Lineage and the Earth Coincidence Control Center (E.C.C.O.).
We have also made many more exceptionally useful websites... encouraging you to further develop your Possibility Creating skills.
We have discovered that it is most effective to practice Creating Possibility together in Teams that assemble in the Context of Possibility Management.
Creating Possibility is a complex set of skills that requires competence in:
- Possibility Listening and Possibility Speaking.
- Knowing your Hidden Purpose and True Purpose. Having your Gremlin at your side.
- Calling in Bright Principles to consciously create Space, Hold Space, and Navigate the extraordinary Space Of Possibility.
- Creating a 'break in certainty' and Navigating to the Liquid State.
- Going Nonlinear, Going Unreasonable, Repackaging, Painting Doorways, Minimizing Now, Making Right-angle Turns at Lightspeed.
- Creating Necessity, Building Matrix to support the new Possibilities of an Expanding Box.
- Etc.
This is a large and exciting playing field. We welcome you!TECHNIQUES OF CREATING POSSIBILITY
There are many approaches that can create or eliminate Possibility. For example:
- Bring Your Team together, give them the situation instead of you carrying it, and let each individual explain what they actually need.
- Shift Identity so you become the problem. Then identify your Purpose. Choose a new route.
- Redefine the circumstances, e.g. tell an entirely different Story about what is happening (rather than telling the Victim Story).
- Change your goals. Use a Transformed definition for success. Consciously Choose your next steps.
- Stop debating about what to decide and actually go through one of the Doorways that is within one arm's reach right Now.
- Change the Gods. Call into the Space a different set of Bright Principles.
- Become a Bridge of transformation that transports people into new perspectives with new alternatives to choose from.
- Call in the innocent to demand that the experts explain themselves simply enough that the innocents understand.
- Choose different values. Most people are completely unaware of the values they support. Put the actual consequences on the table for all to see and discuss whether you want to serve these values. Consider what other values are available to choose from.
- Shift the context of your Point Of Origin into a territory with a context you are resonant with and attracted to. Take actions from there.
- Pull The Rug Out from under the current paradigm and fall into the bottomless pit together. Give yourselves a bigger problem, such as learning to Fly in groundlessness.
- Put the Poop On The Table.
- Become a Seed.
- Drop the Couple into the Frying Pan then reassess the situation.
- Throw the Team in to the Wok and clear the air of residual Projections, Expectations, and Resentments.
- Recontextualize the Space.
- Clarify the communications.
- Become Subversive.
- Speak From The Unknown.
- Ask the Dangerous Questions.
- Create more authentic Necessity.
- Take yourself on the Quest.
- Take yourself into breakdown.
- Become a Pirate (a Conscious Responsible Pirate).
- Make a Crack in the Certainty.
- Go Unreasonable.
- Become Unhookable.
- Slay The Jabberwock.
- Take a Stand.
- Repackage the situation.
- Slide sideways through one of the 9 Gaps into a new space.
- Use the potentials of Chaos, e.g. take the system into breakdown and do the M.E.S.S. Process.
- Etc. etc. etc. rather endlessly. Use Possibility to create and destroy Possibility!
FIND AND REMOVE BLOCKS
You may be surprised to discover (at first) that in Possibility Management, most approaches for creating sustainable Possibility have to do with removing the existing Blocks to Possibility, rather than Inventing more Possibility.
Why is this?
It is NOT because it is more difficult to invent Possibility, or that there is a scarcity of Possibility... quite the contrary.
It is because personal, cultural, and institutional Blocks against Possibility are abundant, and they often accomplish what they set out to do, especially when blocking uninitiated human beings.
If an individual, couple, Team, or organization carries Blocks against Possibility in their energetic, memetic, or legal structure, no amount of valuable new Possibility will even be perceived, let alone be chosen and acted upon.
However, as soon as certain Blocks are removed or transformed, an abundance of practical Possibility suddenly appears as if by magic.
Where does all this valuable new Possibility come from in the first place?
Possibility is designed into the structure of the Universe.
How is that? It is straightforward. The Purpose of the Universe is Evolution... Evolution in multiple dimensions simultaneously, meaning not isolated to evolution in Physical Space, but Evolution in multidimensional Space, such as the 5 Body Spaces used in Possibility Management, including the Evolution of Consciousness.
In order to have the Space needed for Evolution to take place, the Universe incorporates the Possibility of new Spaces as an essential characteristic of its structure.
What this means is: there has ALWAYS been and will ALWAYS be more Possibility available, even if you do not perceive it at this moment.
Wait three seconds until the echoes die out. Use those three seconds to shift your Point Of Origin. Try something completely different from your new Point Of Origin.
UPGRADE THOUGHTWARE WITH MEMETIC ENGINEERING
It turns out that the ready abundance of Possibility does not matter when it comes to human beings!
Why is this? The reason is because human beings do not interact with the world as it is. We interact with the world through our Thoughtmaps of the world. When you adopt a new Thoughtmap - such as shifting from the flat-world Thoughtmap to the round-world Thoughtmap - you get a new world.
The world itself did not change. The world changes for you because your Thoughtware determine what is possible for you.
You can see this in ordinary life. Each person is faced with the same twenty-four hour day. One person feels underprivileged and wounded, drowning in so much fear and scarcity that they refuse to take any action but complaining, blaming, and revenge, while her identical twin sister in the same exact circumstances creates astonishingly playful opportunities in unexpected ways, freely sharing her abundance of Possibilities with others. What is the difference between them?
It is their Thoughtware.
When you seek help to get a job done, you scan for partners who can do the best job. What are you scanning for? Thoughtware.
Upgrade your Thoughtware and you get new Possibility, because with upgraded Thoughtware the world works differently for you than it did before.
Thoughtware and Thoughtmaps are constructed out of Memes, a term invented in 1967 by Clinton Richard Dawson in his 1967 book, The Selfish Gene. Just as Genes are the tiniest instruction for the design of your Physical Body, Memes are the tiniest instruction for the design of your intellectual Body, your mind.
Genetics is the study of Genes. Memetics is the study of Memes.
Changing Thoughtware is one way to change what is possible. Procedures for changing Thoughtware are called Memetic Engineering.
Changing a Memetic Construct of one shape into a Memetic Construct having different shape - conductive expanded Possibilities - involves going through a 'Memetic Liquid State', during which time your Memes reorder themselves in relation to one another. Possibly into new Memes.
The Thoughtware Reordering experience is real. It is a loud and intense 5 Body experience. A fine example of Memetic Reordering can be seen in Possibility Coaching Demonstration #12. Please watch the entire video from start to finish so that you can see how the Space was navigated and how the Memetic Reordering of the Client's Identity was fully integrated.
The Doorway to providing Memetic Engineering as a service for others is to make a thorough and Radically Honest investigation into the structure and purpose of your own Memetic Construct.
This introspection includes but is not limited to:
- Your Beliefs
- Your Assumptions
- Your Expectations
- Your Projections
- Your Conclusions
- Your Stories
- Your Judgements
- Your Prejudices
- Your Positionality
- Your Rules
- Your Box
- Your Gremlin
- Your Hidden Competing Commitments
- Your Hidden Purpose
Clearly this is not something you could accomplish alone as a hero in your own mind. Getting Clarity about your own Memetic Construct is a project to do in a Team with others mutually committed to each other's evolution, such as in your Possibility Team.
Becoming Radically Responsible for the evolution of your own Memetic Construct empowers you to collaborate with others becoming Radically Responsible for theirs.ARRANGE PHYSICAL SPACE
Possibility can be created standing, sitting, lying down, being still, and also moving, individually, in pairs, in small teams, and large groups.
WARNING: Try to avoid - or at the least be extra cautious - when creating Possibility while driving a car. Spaces shift during Possibility creation. These shifts can easily cause the driver to lose their way and not be able to pay full attention to the necessities of driving, even when they are not the center of the conversation! (We speak from personal experience...).
When setting up a physical space for Creating Possibility it helps if your Clients' attention is not distracted by loud noises, sudden moves, or unexpected dangers arising.
What this means is that a bar, a boxing match, or a race-car track are perhaps not the most practical spaces in which to Create Possibility. Whereas a Possibility Café would be ideal, as well as a properly set up Training Space, and certain coffee lounges, or restaurants, but obviously, not for the louder processes which might disturb other guests.
SPLIT YOUR ATTENTION
Creating Possibility depends on your ability to Split Your Attention. This is a skill for which you can develop muscles.
Unconsciously you split your attention ongoingly. You chop vegetables with a sharp knife in the kitchen while listening to music, minding a pain in your shoulders, remembering the recipe, planning your evening's activities, and chewing on a chunk of raw carrot all simultaneously. This requires Splitting Your Attention into six different domains.
You may have to consciously Split Your Attention and navigate four, five, or six domains simultaneously during Possibility Coaching or Trainings. But even in the simplest application of Creating Possibility you will need to consciously Split Your Attention and place it into two domains:
- One part of your Attention needs to be on an accurate assessment of current reality, focusing on what is.
- The other part of your Attention needs to be on what is wanted and needed.
To say this in other words: As the Possibilitator you need to have your feet in two worlds: one foot in the world of the Client, connecting with their wound, exactly as they relate to it. Your other foot needs to be in the world of Possibility, the Client's potential, the next real step that is in front of them to take. If your Attention is not split like this, you can easily be Hooked into the 'reality' of your Client's Victim story, or which may be even worse, you can easily be Hooked into the 'reality' of the Possibility you see for them. Keeping one foot solidly planted in each world helps you stay Unhookable.
Holding both of these sensations inside of you at the same place and the same time causes 'directed tension', an uncomfortably intense pressure or force. The need for resolving this tension is the necessity for Creating Possibility.
What this means is that:
- If you are overwhelmed to the point of exhaustion,
- If you are focused on having comforts,
- If you are accustomed to distracting yourself with TV, alcohol, or substances,
- If you ongoingly saturation-bomb yourself with your Gremlin's need for Low Dramas,
- If your Numbness Bar is raised so high that you cannot detect the 5 Body sensations of 'directed tension'...
...then you will lack both the compass and the rocket fuel needed to effectively Create Possibility.
For newbies, Creating Possibility can be excruciatingly painful. We are accustomed to being totally identified with ourselves. We believe that our emotional Reactivity is real. We believe the Stories that we just made up or that someone else tells us are true. We want to keep believing in our illusions and our fantasy worlds, for example that 'profit is possible', or that 'competition is good', or 'what my religion believes is more real and true than what someone else's religion believes'. We are so identified with the Space we are in that we fight to the death to defend our blind Assumption that this Space is the only possible Space that could exist.
This may be the distinguishing factor between someone on the Path and someone who does not even know what you are talking about: the Pathwalker acknowledges and perhaps participates in the recognition that everything is in flux. ("Panta rhei" said Heraclitus.)
The fluxiness of reality what makes Possibility possible. It gives you room to go sideways in unexpected dimensions.
Now... how can you better surf that flux?
DIRECTED TENSION - PURE CREATION FORCE
Holding two strong sensations inside of your 5 Bodies at the same place and the same time - the sensation of the Client's world (current reality) and the sensation of your world (what is Possible) - causes 'Directed Tension', an uncomfortably intense pressure or force. The need for resolving this tension is the necessity for Creating Possibility. The more you can endure the discomforts of Directed Tension, the more the Universe will align with your Healing or Transformational efforts. As Creating author Robert Fritz says, "Tension seeks resolution." As the Possibilitators say it, "Mother is the necessity of invention."
What this means is that:
- If you are overwhelmed to the point of exhaustion,
- If you are focused on avoiding discomforts,
- If you are accustomed to distracting yourself with TV, alcohol, or substances,
- If you ongoingly saturation-bomb yourself with your Gremlin's need for Low Dramas,
- If your Numbness Bar is raised so high that you cannot detect the 5 Body sensations of 'Directed Tension'...
...then you will lack both the compass and the rocket fuel needed to effectively Create Possibility.
For newbies, Creating Possibility can be excruciatingly painful. We are accustomed to being totally identified with ourselves. We believe that our emotional Reactivity is real. We believe the Stories that we just made up or that someone else tells us are true. We want to keep believing in our illusions and our fantasy worlds, for example that 'profit is possible', or that 'competition is good', or 'what my religion believes is more real and true than what someone else's religion believes'. We are so identified with the Space we are in that we fight to the death to defend our blind Assumption that this Space is the only possible Space that could exist, even if an entirely different Space is waiting one step away through a Doorway set into a paper-thin wall.
This may be the distinguishing factor between someone on the Path and someone who does not even know what you are talking about: the Pathwalker acknowledges and perhaps participates in creating it that everything is in flux ("Panta rhei," exclaimed Heraclitus.) while the ordinary person fights tooth-and-nail to defend their status quo - even if it is killing them.
The fluxiness of reality what makes Possibility Management possible. It gives you room to go sideways in unexpected dimensions.
Now... how can you better surf that flux?
BUILD UP NEW DIALOG SPACE
When Creating Possibility for someone, it can be crucially important to build up a 'Dialog Space' that carries the Distinctions and Thoughtware that makes the new Possibility possible. You build the new Space from the ground up, starting with the foundational Context, Thoughtmaps, and Rules Of Engagement (meaning how to play the game), as if the new Space was an entirely new Gameworld.
From one perspective, creating such a bridge for them is not fair. You might even be thinking you are Rescuing your Client, one of the worst kinds of Low Drama imaginable. Perhaps no one ever built out a new Dialog Space for you, and so you had to figure it out yourself the long hard slow way. Perhaps you have hidden resentment and want your Client to fail and not have new possibility.
From another perspective, no one can see the Possibility you offer before you offer it and this is your Value, managing Possibility. Just like the electrician can solve problems and fix things for you that you cannot fix for yourself as a way of providing Value, you can create Possibility for people that they cannot create for themselves. It is your job.
The way to build out an extraordinary dialog space is to give your Client the vocabulary, metaphors, distinctions, and the Hero's Journey story from which their new kind of conversation can emerge.
The conversation space you build has to include the edge of where they are and the new space they can expand into.
You offer the conversation space to your Client until they are able/willing to make the first step. Probably they would not have been able to figure it out ('they' meaning their Box Gremlin Survival Strategy) without you framing out the dialog, for example: "You are in a Global Team of Possibility Trainers. Your Team is telling you that what you are doing is beneath our dignity to stand by and allow. We are drawing the line, and we are here to support you making specific changes. Will you accept out support?"
Once your Client is in the new Conversation Space, do not mention the old Conversation Space or you will be invoking your Client back into patterns of conversation for which they have deep grooves in their brain. For this shift to work, you are required to shift along with your Client into the new Space.
How to do this? Move your Point Of Origin into the new Space and interact with your Client as if the Space has always existed (it has...) and as if they have always been there (they have not, from the view of a big NOW, but from the view of a Minimized Now, three seconds ago is ancient history, so if you let the transformation dust settle for five second of silence, then your Client have already been here in this Space of new Possibility with you for a very long time).
For you to shift so fast requires that you carry no baggage, meaning, no expectations, no conclusions, no projections, no judgements, no positionality, no reactivity, no resentment, no plotting revenge.
This is a total Do Over for you also. Before this moment, you related to your Client as if they were stuck in a condition or circumstance without the new Possibility you are inviting them into. (Yes, they WERE stuck there, and, to Create Possibility for them, you needed to completely drop that Story into a Black Hole and be with them EXACTLY where they were.) As your Client is exposed to and begins to explore the new Space with its new Possibility, you must also release your picture of who they are, so that YOU are not the one providing a path back into their old way of Being.
This means that if your Client is to go through the Liquid State of shifting the shape of their Being to acquire a new Possibility, then for them to succeed, you must instantly - even before them - throw yourself into a Liquid State of allowing your Client to be someone unrecognizable. You no longer know who they are, how they are, where they are. Your 5 Body Scan of them from only a few seconds before now no longer applies. The Scan holds old information.
Release everything you hold about your Client and Scan them anew, as a complete stranger. StartOver.xyz so that you can be with them where they are NOW. The Possibilitator, Possibility Coach, Possibility Mediator, Possibility Psychologist, Possibility Trainer, Feelings Practitioner, Authentic Adulthood Initiator, etc., has no opportunity to stand back and watch the show, because you are the show just as much as your Client.
"Welcome back my friends
To the show that never ends.
We're so glad you could attend!
Come inside! Come inside!"
- Emerson, Lake & Palmer
"Panta Rhei" means: "Everything is in flux. Everything flows."
- Heraclitus
What this translates to in practical Possibilitator Training terms is:
"Something completely different from this is possible right now."
- Clinton CallahanHOLDING AND NAVIGATING ENERGETIC SPACE
To a large degree, the qualities of the energetic Space influence what is and is not Possible in that space. For this reason, Possibilitators can be heard mumbling to each other, "The space determines what is possible."
What this means is that it is the Possibilitator's job to create the exact kind of energetic space needed to invite or promote the Possibility needed.
How can you understand that energetic Space has such power? Think of firewalking - the act of walking barefoot across eight meters of burning coals without burning your feet (or walking on large rocks that have been heated all day in a huge fire - as is done in Fiji). The Spaceholder of the firewalking spends time and energy and focused attention to create and hold the specific Space where firewalking is possible. If you have ever burned your foot on burning coals (as I have) and done firewalking without burning your feet (as I have) then you know the importance of the skills of the firewalking Spaceholder!
Every energetic Space has a Context which is the Space's relation to Responsibility and Consciousness (e.g. the 5 levels of Responsibility). The Context also includes the Purpose of the Space (e.g. why the Space is being held as it is being held), and the Bright Principles or Shadow Principles under whose auspices the Space has been called into existence.
If a Space is not called into existence and held consciously to serve conscious purposes, then it is being called into existence unconsciously to serve unconscious (Gremlin) purposes. There is always a space. The space always has a purpose.
Once a Space is consciously created, it can be consciously or unconsciously Navigated. The skills of Consciously Navigating Space are the basis of Discovery Speaking, Possibility Speaking, Discovery Journeys, WorkTalks, WorkShops, Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes, Transformational Training Spaces, Transformational Emotional Healing Processes (such as Possibility Coaching, Possibility Mediation, Possibility Psychology, Feelings Practitioners, Memetic Engineering, and 3 Phase Healing), and 5 Body Intimacy Journeys, for example.
Without the appropriate Space, it is unlikely you will be able to create the appropriate Possibility.
Yes, the people in the Space are also a crucial element effecting what Possibility can be created there. For example, if people are able to pay attention to their Attention (if they are 'housebroken', so to speak, if they can take responsibility for being in a space and are not just wild monkeys), if people have already built into their Being enough Distinctions to hold the kind of Matrix needed for creating the desired Possibility, if people have Authentic Necessity and appreciation for the Possibility being created, then they automatically (reflexively) help create and maintain the Possibility Space needed.
Preparing people to collaborate in consciously navigated Spaces is a primary intention and yet difficult-to-explain outcome of the Expand The Box training and ten Possibility Labs. These refined high-quality skills permeate all aspects of a person's life and relationships, making life even more tantalizing and appreciated because of what becomes Possible using Space Navigation and Possibility Creation skills.
NOT ABOUT KNOWING OR TEACHING WHAT YOU ALREADY KNOW
A Possibilitator sooner or later discovers that the Universe is more complex and multidimensional than we have been led to believe by modern culture and modern education. The excitement of directly experiencing how much more is possible than you imagined can become a force that pops you out of bed in the morning to Create Possibility for yourself and others, no matter how bleak the world may look to you at any particular time from any particular perspective.
But there is a price. The price of a life of service as a Possibilitator is: sacrificing the idea that you know. Perhaps this is the most difficult sacrifice to make for school teachers or university professors.
You may have worked hard to try to be acknowledged as someone who knows. You may have spent years of your life and tens of thousands of Euros in order to gain B.S. , M.S., and PhD degrees. You may have won fancy trophies, plastered a wall with certificates and honorable mentions, built up a huge portfolio of properties, financial wealth, and valuable art. You may drive a red convertible Maserati GT 5000, wear only Brunello Cucinelli shirts, carry the latest model iPhone, and wrap only Tag Heuer watches around your wrist.
Fine. All that is already in the past.
What about now? What Possibility can you invent and reinvent now for yourself and for others?
What this means is that being someone who 'knows', being someone who already possesses things, does not make you a Possibilitator.
More often that you might ever have imagined, when you connect with your Client where they are and experience their necessity and their Matrix, the Distinctions and Thoughtmaps you draw inside of them that they need right now have never been invented before. You do not already know them. You are not teaching them to your client from your memory.
Instead, you are together with your Client on a Discovery Journey, discovering and delivering new Thoughtmaps as you inhabit new energetic Space together.
Not only that, but any Thoughtmap or Distinction that you try to deliver to a Client from memory, from your mind, from knowing, as if you are teaching it from having understood it before, is already dead. Each Thoughtmap, Distinction, Tool or Process you provide is alive for your Client only when you go back to the source of the jewel, where the Possibilities originate, and start over again to Discover how it goes, as if you have never been there before.
As you Discover it fresh, your Client Discovers it with you. Since they Discovered it themselves, they can keep it.
As you might imagine, that last tidbit is exceptionally important.
LANDING DISTINCTIONS IN THE MATRIX OF THE CLIENT'S BEING
Trying to row a boat across the desert... it does not work.
Why? Because boats only work on water.
Trying to row a boat across the desert is the same as trying to Land a Distinction into someone's Being who does not have the Matrix to hold the Distinction. Not only does it not work, but it also can make the other person angry.
A Distinction is a structural element of Matrix.
In other words, Matrix is built out of Distinctions the same way a high-rise building is built out of a skeleton of steel girders.
Trying to Land a Distinction in someone who does not yet have the Matrix to hold that Distinction is like trying to add steel girders to the eighteenth floor of a building that is only built up to the sixteenth floor. It is not helpful. You need to add on steel girders to the seventeenth floor first.
How can you detect the quality and extent of Matrix that a person has already built?
The answer is Scanning. You Scan your Client's Matrix using the Distinctions in your own Matrix.
This explains why you can see people with less Matrix than you (who have fewer Distinctions and therefore less Awareness than you) but you cannot see people with more Matrix than you. This also explains why two people from different cultures cannot see how the other culture works, its values, its protocols. This also explains the importance of Scanning Matrix for gaps. This would be one way to detect psychopathic or sociopathic personalities. (Here is an Experiment: Scan the Matrix of people wherever you go. You are unconsciously doing this all the time anyway. It is one of your primary forms of entertainment. However this time, instead of Scanning for people who you have resonance with or you are attracted to, Scan for people who are invisible to you. Then go over and meet them. Tell them, "I was Scanning your Matrix and there are parts I cannot see. Could you please explain this to me?")
This also explains why you can radically rely on the Clients who choose you to be their Possibilitator. They are Scanning you to make sure you can see them, that you can work with them where they are. For example, if their Gremlin is 'bigger' than your Gremlin, you cannot help them. Their Gremlin would eat you for lunch. You will not have requests from Clients that are 'too big' or 'too complex' for you.
E.C.C.O. (Earth Coincidence Control Office) is on your side. Even if voices in your head scream that you do not know how to help a person who walks in your door, remember that the services you provide as a Possibilitator do not depend on what you know or what you can already do. Your services come out of making contact, listening very carefully, being with your Client where they are, and calling on your resources to provide what your Client needs to take the step that is in front of them right Now. Pull our your Voice Blaster and shoot those voices. Don't give your Client what their Box or Gremlin wants. Give them what their Being needs to take their next steps.
GOING NONLINEAR AND GOING UNREASONABLE
As already mentioned, the Space determines what is Possible.
What this implies is that gaining direct and immediate access to new kinds of Spaces can greatly augment your ability to Create Possibility. Here are examples of several sorts of sideways moves that can take you into Spaces with specific qualities in which new Possibility is available:
- Build Matrix through adding Context. Each new Distinction that you land in your Client's Being is an awareness that gives them new options to choose from.
- Isolate and identify a Memetic Construct inside of which your Client has been cowering. Once they can clearly see and describe their Construct, they are outside of it, and inside of a much greater Space inside of themselves. They have far more freedom of movement.
- Bring your Client to name the Hidden Competing Commitment behind their pain and failure.
- Empower your Client by practicing the use of any of the 13 Energetic Tools. until they can use it themselves without you around.
- Help your Client invent Reminding Factors for themselves that help them remember to try new behaviors in unusual circumstances.
Trying to move in such directions can easily be blocked by conditions that you may not be aware of. It is far easier to Notice such blocks at work in others. This is a value of working in Teams and Circles. It is easier to identify and then transcend or transform the blocks and resistances of others than it is to identify, transcend, or transform the blocks and resistances in yourself.One internal Possibility-blocker may be your fears related to Going Nonlinear. 'Going Nonlinear' means taking orthogonal turns (right-angle turns) without warning, making use of the unexpected, improvising, prestidigitation, suddenly calling forth Possibilities and situations from nothing, taking off in unpredictable or unmeditated (the spellchecker offered 'unmedicated'...) directions, etc. Such actions may not be allowed by your Box (or the Boxes of those you are being adaptive towards...) if you are to seem controllable and civilized to the people around you. Reclaiming your capacity to Go Nonlinear may involve practicing surprising new skills not offered in any ordinary curriculum, and may also involve going through Emotional Healing Processes to shift into newly expanded nonlinearity potentials.Another internal Possibility-blocker may be your fears related to Going Unreasonable. 'Going Unreasonable' means skipping the limitations of logic, refusing to restrain yourself to staying within justifiable or explicable behaviors, directly accessing both inner and outer resources that are foreign to other people's worldviews, making 'unreasonable offers' and 'unreasonable requests' that exceed standard notions of what lies 'within reason', demanding of yourself unreasonable levels of discovery and persistent invention, etc. Such actions may not be allowed by your Box (or the Boxes of those you are being adaptive towards...) if you are to maintain the appearance of being a sane person to the people around you. Reclaiming your capacity to Go Unreasonable may also involve going through Emotional Healing Processes to integrate newly expanded unreasonability potentials.FINDING, CREATING, AND USING DOORWAYS
There are such things as Doorways from your current Space into alternate Spaces, whatever your current Space is. In the Laws Of Spaces it says that every Space is connected to every other Space. This means that you can get to anywhere from here.
How could this possibly work? It works by making use of the Gap Between Spaces, one of the 9 Gaps used by Possibilitators. What is in the Gap Between Spaces? Nothing! This same Nothingness is between all Spaces. What this means is that you can drop into the Nothingness at the edge of one Space and pop in from the Nothingness at the edge of any other Space.
But what you need to exit from one Space to another Space besides the Nothingness between Spaces is a Doorway.
What the Laws Of Spaces also says is that no one can own a Space. All Spaces are copyleft, open code. What this means is that the most exclusive and exquisite Spaces are not reserved for Kings and Queens, or movie stars, or the holiest of holies. If you can create or access a Space, you can be in that Space. You cannot 'trespass' in 'private' Spaces because Spaces are objectively archetypal.
Every Space is objectively neutral, meaning: it is what it is, and what is Possible there is what is Possible there, even if the Presiding Deity of the Space may have a differing opinion about that.
There are important skills to develop regarding finding, Painting, and going through Doorways.
One thing with Doorways is that you can only go through a Doorway when you are at the Doorway. You cannot go through a Doorway 'over there' somewhere. You cannot even reach the door handle 'over there'. You cannot step across the threshold if the threshold is 'over there'. It is too far away. The way to get close enough to a Doorway to use it is to prepare yourself, to Build Matrix, to 'learn the language' of Doorways, to drop your baggage of Beliefs, Assumptions, Projections, Conclusions, Expectations, Resentments, Judgements, etc. so that you are light enough to get to the Doorway, and small enough to go through the Doorway.
Another thing about Doorways is that if you are at a Doorway and do not go through the Doorway, the Doorway may suddenly disappear and you may never find that specific Doorway of opportunity ever again. On the other hand, if you are at a Doorway and you do go through the Doorway into another Space, the original Doorway may easily close behind you and you may never find another Doorway back from the other Space into your current Space. This is the game of Doorways.
DISTINGUISHING GREMLIN AND SHADOW PRINCIPLES
Gremlin is ever present.
This can be a shock to anyone deluding themselves behind a 'good boy' or 'nice girl' Fantasy World.
There are just as many Shadow Principles in the Universe as there are Bright Principles.
Any Client sitting across from you will be plagued to some degree with confusions, denials, subterfuges, and dramatic interplays with their Gremlin, your Gremlin, and the shenanigans of the Underworld. This is neither good nor bad, fortunate nor unfortunate. This is what you get to deal with in the world of creating Possibility. And if this does not scare the shit out of you, then you are not listening.
The primary tool for approaching all this unconscious Underworld stuff is having your Sword Of Clarity to hand, always pointed at your Client's throat (energetically speaking, of course). What happens if they come at you? They don't make it very far.
Distinctions create clarity. Clarity creates Possibility. What makes Distinctions? Anger.
The point is, the Thoughtmap Of Possibility is real. Even if it looks like the Shadow World is all there is, you do not have to go there to deal with it. Has it not been written, "You can't fight fire with fire." The thing is, if you shift into Emotional Reactivity, Gremlin moves, and serving Shadow Principles, you are not going to have the awareness to help your Client. So even if they want to stay in confusion, blame, superiority, deception, resentment, and revenge, it will not help them if you go there too.
Your job is to NOT be naïve about the Underworld.It is also NOT your job to 'make your Client happy again'. It is NOT your job to get your Client to 'see the light of reason'. It is NOT your job to 'make things better' for your Client. That would be providing positive thinking and aphorisms instead of Possibility.
Your job is to go on the transformational journey with your Client that they can go on. Having your own Gremlin at your side as a Gremlin Detector, informing you immediately and clearly about what your Client's Gremlin is up to (White Widow, Low Drama, Box #13 Confusion, etc.) so that you can put it on the table as options to choose from.
You keep one foot in your own culture of archiarchy, and put your other foot up close to where they are in their world. You have a Being to Being connection through your Box and their Box. You find something to love about your Client so you can connect with them. And you go on the journey together.
The outcome cannot be determined beforehand because Creating Possibility is not a method or a technique, no matter how much you may want them to smile afterwards. You stay Unhookable, keep your Center and Bubble, hold the Golden Cube of workspace, call in your Bright Principles, be Present, be Attentive, navigate to the Liquid State, use each Golden Key and trust the Process, keeping your Sword Of Clarity to hand even after you think the process is over. The process is never over.
OLD AND NEW DECISIONS
Human beings make Decisions in their Being, not their mind.
A Decision changes who you are. It changes the shape of your Being. After making a Decision, you become the person who is shaped by the Decision that you made. The Universe is forced to conform to the shape of your Being and interacts with you accordingly, even if you do not know what the Old Decision is.
Once having made a decision, especially a Decision about doing whatever it takes to survive, you make the new conditions into your new 'normal'. You forget that you made the Old Decision.
Nonetheless, even if you forget that you made a Decision, it continues to do its job and shape your life.
Old Decisions can be made in childhood, even before you could speak, even before you leave your mother's belly. Old Decisions still shape your life even if you made the Old Decisions in a 'past life'. Your Being carries the pattern of your Old Decisions.
The value of having your Client learn to Consciously Feel before you agree to sit across from them in a Possibility Chair during a Possibility Coaching session is that their Emotions can (starting at about 23% intensity when Client finally gets out of their head and the sounds and words of the Emotions can come out) lead you and them back to the moment when the Old Decisions were made. At that point the Old Decisions can become conscious. The Old Decisions are not stupid or wrong. They make sense. You understand why you made them.
Once you discover what your Old Decisions are, you can experience to what degree the Old Decisions are still influencing your life today. This is an 'awesome' discovery - a discovery full of awe and respect for the cost of carrying unconscious Decisions.
The procedure for clarifying a Client's Old Decisions DOES NOT include automatically trying to get them to make New Decisions!
For one thing, the Client has been living lives within a Universe that has conformed to their shape carrying around their Old Decisions. The action of becoming aware of precisely the wording of their Old Decisions, and maintaining their awareness of their Old Decisions (thus the importance of writing down the exact wording of the Client's Old Decisions in their Beep! Book)
For another thing, they may not have consciously experienced enough of the pain caused by their Old Decisions to propel them to go through the pain of shifting into an entirely different and unfamiliar life created by making New Decisions. They probably do not have the Matrix built in their Being to hold the New Decisions.
DO NOT RUSH YOUR CLIENT INTO TRYING TO MAKE NEW DECISIONS. This is a crime, a waste of hard-earned transformational Possibility. Instead, let your Client live in the painful awareness that many of the distorted, lonely, and unrewarding parts of their life have been shaped by their Old Decisions. When it becomes ongoingly painful enough for the Client, some New Decisions will automatically emerge in the Client's Being. This works through pain becoming conscious and the reflexive changed behavior.
Proposing well-designed functionally-effective and sustainable New Decisions is an art form that is too complex to explain here in this section. It can be learned, but best through direct experience, and reserved for rather rare occasions when the situation calls for it. It usually does not. Some example of Old Decision / New Decision are given in the 100 Demo Videos below. Let the whole space and process sink into your 5 Bodies rather than trying to figure this out in your mind and remembering. This stuff is far bigger and faster than mind.
AWARENESS OF GREMLINS, ENTITIES, DEMONS, AND PSYCHOLOGICAL ABERRATIONS
In ordinary Spaces, the Box / Gremlin combination is not distinguished. By remaining unconscious, the Box / Gremlin combination remains invisibly in control of situations and interactions so that not enough Possibility is created to change anything significant. The Box remains mechanically intact. Its Survival Strategy can continue uninterrupted. Your life stays the same. Time goes by. Sooner or later the components of your Box rigidify, crystallize. You no longer relate to the world as it is but only to your interpretations of the world. Your aliveness fades. Probably you know a few people who tell the same stories over and over every time you see them? This can also happen to you. One of the only forces we have discovered that is powerful enough to counteract Box / Gremlin petrification is life on an Authentic Transformational Path with a Team of fellow Possibilitators, Evolutionaries, Edgeworkers, Riftwalkers, Jabberwock Slayers, Bridge Builders.
If you show up as a Possibilitator, either you are hired or not hired.
If you are hired to do a specific job, and you are present with your Client(s) under the auspices of the organization itself, then you are 'licensed' (in the same way that Secret Agent 007 is licensed...) to do your work visibly, putting your aims and methods on the table. You can proceed directly.
If you are not hired, then any Possibility Making you do is under your own Authority. You work for private purposes, or you negotiate with individuals privately.
The suggestion is that if you work under contract do not assume that your work will go unresisted. And if you work privately, do not assume that your Possibilitator potentials will go unnoticed.
Possibilitators use Scanning as a tool for multidimensional or multipurpose Noticing. It turns out that when your Attention is liberated to freely scan, you start coming up with the darndest impressions.
Not only that, but while you are Scanning, you are also being Scanned.
Scan for who (or what...) is Scanning you.
From time to time it will become apparent that "God did not rest on the seventh day," or as Robert A. Heinlein wrote in his short story Goldfish Bowl, "Beware. Creation took eight days."
Here are some of the conditions which may arise, and what you can do about them to make a difference for yourself and others:
- GREMLIN ARISING IN YOURSELF - Totally Decontaminate your Adult Ego State from any remnants of your Gremlin Ego State. This is 1 to 2 years of dedicated practicing. Put your Gremlin at your side with a short chain around its neck. Call your Gremlin by its name and tell it to "Sit!" at your left side (the side opposite of your sword hand, so that you can use your sword hand for your Sword Of Clarity). Give your Gremlin jobs to do that your Box cannot do, that help you deliver your Archetypal Lineage in the world. This will take 3 to 5 years of intense Emotional Healing and Adulthood and Archetypal Initiation work in Teams. You cannot succeed with this alone.
- GREMLIN ARISING IN OTHERS - You will not be able to confront Gremlin in another person, or protect yourself from the Gremlin of other people or the Gremlin from organizations (such as governments, religions, corporate advertisers, bureaucracies, banks, etc.) until you make your own Gremlin conscious. After taking possession of your own Gremlin you can give it the job of ongoingly informing you what other Gremlins are up to. When your Gremlin is your conscious ally for serving your conscious purposes, you can help other people grow up about their own Gremlins. Other people need help, the same way you were helped. Please help others with their authentic adulthood healing and initiatory processes.
- GREMLIN GAMEWORLDS - All modern-culture organizations that intend to 'make a profit', and that function with a hierarchical power structure, select for psychopathic personalities to take leadership positions. The very concepts that 'a corporation can take responsibility' ('corporate personhood'), that 'a corporation can own land or mineral rights', or that a corporations can 'make a profit' are uninitiated adolescent Fantasy Worlds which lead directly to ecocide ('ecocide' is the extermination of life on Earth). Consulting any modern-culture organization to become 'sustainable' or 'regenerative' or 'green' starts by ending the corporation (discorporating the corporation, which means: kill it) and starting over in an entirely different context to create Gaian Gameworlds. Modern-culture corporations are not broken. They are doing exactly as intended: 'monetizing nature' by burning it and blowing it up at the fastest possible rate.
- ENTITIES - Entities are energetic vampires such as Voices that flutter about feeding on your life energy. Banish entities by looking directly at them, saying "I see you!". If they do not immediately disappear forever, then shoot them repeatedly with your Voice Blaster. If you listen to any voice - or even worse: argue with them - you are already Hooked.
- DEMONS - Demons come to eat your energy because you open yourself like an all-you-can-eat buffet through thinking 'Trigger Phrases' to yourself. By thinking one Trigger Phrase you open up the buffet. Become a 'Trigger Hunter'. See S.P.A.R.K. 135 for complete instructions and practices.
- PSYCHOLOGICAL ABERRATIONS - Human beings have Parts. We are a Zoo inside, complete with an entire Underworld ecology of schizophrenic characters. By Splitting Your Attention and using Self Observation you can get to know your many internal Parts. Studying your own Parts helps you get to know what is going on with other people's many Parts. All sorts of demented energetic creatures can take over the 'steering wheel' of a human being and produce behavior that looks like psychosis, depression, bipolar, borderline, schizophrenia, two-year-old rage fits, manic depression, parental neurosis, dark beings, etc. Most of these conditions are the consequence of two factors: irresponsibility, and incomplete incarnation. Creating a new future comes from landing new Distinctions in the Being, upgraded Thoughtware in the Intellectual body, conscious Practices in the Physical and Energetic Bodies, and no little amount of good fortune.
First, keep in mind that all of these conditions are Survival Strategies. Clever? Yes. Powerful? Indeed. But above all, they are Survival Strategies, meaning that the user remains in a Survival Context, blocking them from being Adult in the Present. They are not actually Living. They are merely desperately surviving, not so different from Zombies.
Second, keep in mind that human beings have many, many Parts, any of which can be activated and can take over the heart, mouth, and body at any unexpected moment. We are far more complex and dynamic than modern culture would have you believe. The suggestion is to know that you and everyone else represents the current 'tip of the iceberg' of this psycho-emotional ecology - one facet of it - at any given moment. This means that you, as a Possibilitator, have the power to stay centered, grounded, present, and in connection (meaning not in Reactivity), and then through your Space Navigation skills, can 'dial up' the qualities in the person or people around you whom you wish to interact with.
It is true that: "Sometimes the magic works, and sometimes it doesn't." (a movie quote from 'Grandfather' in the film Little Big Man). Nonetheless, the magic works more often than not if you remain a Mage, and if you persist. It is worth it to keep trying. (This is an opinion.)
SPECIAL NOTE: it is crucial to keep your 'It's Time To Get The Hell Out Of Here' Detector turned on almost always, yet far out of the hands of your Box and Gremlin. You already have this 'ITTGTHOOH' Detector close to your Being. How do I know this? Because you live. You are the descendent of many hundreds of generations of mothers and fathers who 'Got The Hell Out Of There' at the exact right moment, or they would not have lived long enough to give birth to you. You can honor them for that. Then honor yourself: Please activate, refine the sensitivity of, and consciously practice using your ITTGTHOOH Detector. The world needs Possibilitators.
"A beginning is the time for taking the most delicate care that the balances are correct."
- Frank Herbert in Dune
How To Apply Possibility
Over the years, through paying careful attention during direct experiences, we have learned that certain actions prepare a Client to make best use of their Possibility Coaching Sessions. If you Experiment with the suggestions below, it can deepen the value and increase the transformational results of your Possibilitator services.
BECOMING CENTERED AWAKENS SELF-AUTHORITY
Each Session starts with asking the Client to Become Centered. (IMPORTANT NOTE: Becoming Centered is NOT done with the Clicker!!! Becoming Centered is a multi-step energetic process that goes like this:
- Split Your Attention,
- Place one part of your Attention on your Energetic Center wherever it is located (e.g. in the past, in the future, on an external authority figure, lost in some Story or in a Fantasy World, lost in your Mind Machine, tangled up in a Brain Split, etc.)
- Then use your Conscious Will (your Intention) to move your Energetic Center from wherever it is now, to put it directly onto your Physical Center (located three fingers below your belly-button, usually behind your belt buckle, at your Hara or Dan Dien.)
- Then hold your Energetic Center there as you speak, move, feel, sense, and create.
Becoming Centered begins the alchemical transformation of reclaiming your Authority. Unlike other forms of healing or evolutionary work which try to protect the exclusive 'authority' of the 'teacher', 'healer', or 'shaman', in Possibility Management, the objective is for the Client to take back their own Authority and Radical Responsibility. In this aim it is clear that Authority is abundant, meaning that, as the Client gains more Authority this does not decrease or threaten the Authority of the Trainer or Coach.
Make it a standard welcome procedure with your Client to have them Split their Attention to find their Energetic Center, then use their Intention to move their Energetic Center to their Physical Center. This creates a shifted experience in their 5 Bodies called 'Being Centered'.
After that ask them to 'click' their Clicker to Declare a Grounding Cord connecting their Energetic Center to the Center of the Earth.
And then ask them to make one more 'click' of their Clicker to establish the Energetic Distinction between their personal Space and everyone else's Space called their personal Bubble of Space.
From here you can respectfully begin.
USE THE GOLDEN KEYS
A familiar hand shake greeting with your Client welcomes them into your shared Coaching Space.
You can detect so much about your Client and their current psycho-physio-emotional state by a simple hand-shake. Online Sessions must forego knowing if the Client's hand is cold and clammy or hot and sweaty, dead like a fish, or aggressively competitive like a scared corporate manager.
A Possibilitator's handshake includes a small golden sphere of Archetypal Love that you generate in the palm of your hand as you reach over to shake. It is a gift you make for them to do with whatever they wish.
As you make eye-to-eye and Being-to-Being contact (Yes, certainly, even over the internet, although Being-to-Being contact is not over the internet. It is instantaneous and direct, Being-to-Being contact, no matter where they are located, even if they are half-a-world away from you. For more on this, please read up at http://worthinghealers.mystrikingly.com.) your invitational question that goes straight to the point is: "What can I do for you?"
You are not truly looking for an answer to this question. What you are looking for are 'Golden Keys'.
A 'Golden Key' is a transportational communication that you can activate with a Completion Loop. Using the Completion Loop catapults you into a new and valuable playing field with your Client. By skillfully using a Golden Key, the Client feels heard and seen at that level. This creates a new beginning. Such a completion, all by itself, can prove to be miraculously healing.
NAVIGATE TO THE LIQUID STATE
Using a Completion Loop with a Golden Key will bring your Client one step closer to 'the actual thing' that is going on for them. It takes them one step closer to what is real.
Entering reality after you have worn a 'nice girl' or 'good boy' Adaptive mask of denial and delusion for so long is such a relief that Emotions and Feelings come immediately, often within seconds. This is the Liquid State. The structure of the pretend games falls apart into bits or dissolves into the Nothingness out of which it was made, and true connection between you and the Client is suddenly possible.
In the Liquid State, Transformation is possible, Discovery is possible, Evolution is possible. A Liquid State does not guarantee change, but without a Liquid State, change is not possible. Memetic Structures inside your Client need to reorganize themselves in relationship with each other for new things to become possible for them. Thoughtware relinquishes its power of Belief during a Liquid State and not before.
If you remain in intellectual discussion with your Client for more than a few minutes during a Possibility Coaching session, you are wasting precious Chairwork time... and you are probably Hooked into the conversation by the wily shenanigans of your Client's clever Gremlin, doing its job of protecting the status quo of the Client's Survival Strategy Box.
Then it is up to you to Beep! Shift! Go! for the Possibility Coaching to proceed.
Use the Golden Keys to Navigate To The Liquid State. Then the Feelings and Emotions have become Conscious and can bear fruit.
CONSCIOUS FEELINGS
It is central to any session where you intend to create Clarity and Possibility for your Client, that you, the Coach, are already skilled with Inner Navigating your Conscious Feelings of Anger, Sadness, Fear, Joy, both as Feelings and as Emotions (knowing the difference).
In learning to Consciously Feel you will calibrate your Feelings Detector to Notice (experientially) what percentage intensity your Client is feeling which feeling or emotion, because you know (experientially) what percentage you are feeling which feeling and emotion.
You also need to know how to skillfully and compassionately help your Client follow a feeling or emotion back to its source because you can already follow your own feeling or emotion back to its source in you.
Ideally your Client has already Stellated their 4 Feelings (anger, sadness, fear, and joy) such that they can consciously experience and express each of the four feelings to 100% archetypal intensity while being okay.
If your Client has not Stellated their Feelings, your Coaching session will be painfully handicapped, and most of your time and energy will be focused on helping your Client learn to Consciously Feel.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Recommended reading for a Client previous to their first Possibility Coaching session with you is Clinton Callahan's handbook called, Directing The Power Of Conscious Feelings, also available in German as Die Kraft des bewussten Fühlens.
FURTHER NOTE: It can be incredibly useful for a Client to be given Matrix Building challenges such as: "Earn 1000 Matrix Points in the StartOver.xyz game and send me a screenshot of your account page," or, "Participate in the next online or offline Rage Club," or , "We can meet again after you do three months of 3-3-3 Practice."
Take A Stand for your Client's potentials by laying out their next possible steps for them. You cannot take those steps for them, but you can provide Clarity about what the most useful steps might be for them right now.
RAGE CLUB - ANGER AWAKENS ALIVENESS
We have so often witnessed and experienced how a Client is both before and after participating in an 8-week online-or-offline Rage Club that it is difficult not to make Rage Club and also three months of 3-3-3 Practice a pre-requisite to Possibility Coaching. The difference between someone cannot consciously focus and apply Conscious Anger and someone who can feels like sleep and aliveness.
Conscious Anger, especially Conscious Anger that has been Stellated to 100% Archetypal Intensity for no reason, changes a person's inner structure. They get their Real Voice back. They can say, "No!" and "Stop!" without hesitation, without taking the time to bother having to decide about it. They can direct their Attention and Split their Attention. They can Hold Space for a Conscious Purpose. They can use their Conscious Will. They can tell their own Gremlin to, "Sit!" and can use their own Gremlin to not be a victim of other people's unconscious Gremlin. They can create Necessity, both in themselves, and in the Space. They can They can stay Present. They can take care of themselves - they can trust themselves to take care of themselves around other people - so they can connect with you, the Coach. They can receive and deliver Clarity. They can receive and Flow Power. They can make Nonlinear actions and take risks. They can Choose, Declare, and Ask, the 3 central Powers of a human being. They can stay sill and Listen. They can make space and time for their own thinking. On and on...
All these and much more are evolutionarily helpful during the 5 Body Intimacy Journey that a Possibility Coaching session is.
Use whatever you can to encourage your Client to participate in Rage Clubs and after that, Fear Clubs. Healing and Evolution will depend on your Client taking personal responsibility to do 3-3-3 Practice for anger, and then fear, and then for whatever emotions are coming up, with clarity and words.
Consciously embodied Anger is the catalyst for amazing Possibility Coaching, Possibility Mediation, and Possibility Psychology sessions. This cannot be overemphasized. The results are nothing less than awesome. Truly.
EXPERIENTIALLY DISTINGUISHING FEELINGS FROM EMOTIONS
It is almost unknown in the world that Feelings are so radically different from Emotions in their origin and use.
Making this Experiential Distinction between Feelings and Emotions repeatedly, even forcefully, seems required before Clients start to wake up about this difference in their daily lives.
Without the Client making the new habit of distinguishing Feelings from Emotions as they arise, the Client is left powerless in a completely confused world. Instead of Clarity, High Drama, and Conscious Creation, the Client is left in Reactivity, Low Drama, and unconscious Gremlin feeding frenzies. Nothing can really heal or change for them because trying to take responsibility for what they feel would be fruitless.
As the Possibilitator you are the source of the necessity and the procedure for distinguishing Feelings from Emotions. By doing so you open up an entirely new and different connection to the world than the Client had before. This at least as valuable as any Lawyer, Doctor, or Car Mechanic session, and should be charged accordingly. Not charging for you services leaves you trapped in your corporate job and unable to serve more Clients.
UNMIXING EMOTIONS
In the same way that distinguishing Feelings from Emotions changes Client's lives, separating Emotions one from the other into their pure forms of anger, sadness, fear, and joy also transforms the internal and external worlds into something far more friendly and manageable.
Fully Unmixing Emotions takes a full session of 60 to 90 minutes working through these 4 stages:
- Consciously feeling the mixed Emotions at high intensity - up to 60% or 80% intense Mixed Emotions (e.g. hysteria, aggression, depression, despair, melancholy, revenge, shame, guilt, greed, etc.)
- Separating the pure Emotions layer after layer into 4 distinct piles of Emotions on the floor around you. This is very physical using both hands. It is also very loud. If it is not unbearably loud, you are not doing it. You are thinking about doing it, or imagining about doing it, but you are not Unmixing Emotions.
- Putting the full mountain of one Emotion at a time back into your body where it belongs: Conscious Anger belongs in the bones (teeth, spine, skull), Conscious Sadness belongs in the watery parts (blood, saliva, spinal fluid, lymph fluid, soft organs), Conscious Fear belongs in the nervous system (spinal cord, brain, nerves), and Conscious Joy belongs inside the walls of every kind of cell in the body. They all laugh to live.
- Then Consciously Using the Unmixed Emotions for what the Client could not use them for before because they were mixed.
This deep emotional healing work changes around the entire Emotional Body, which has often been confused, suppressed, and denied since birth. This can completely change a Client's health, relationship, and life possibilities.
This is why we implore you as a Possibilitator to focus on Unmixing Emotions before trying to do anything else. It builds a new foundation in reality.
BANISHMENT AND RETRIEVAL
There are two classifications of blocks you can remove.
- A block that comes from something being present that should not be there. This transformational procedure for getting rid of this extra element is known as 'banishment'.
- A block that comes from something being missing that should be there. The transformational procedure for bringing this element back is known as 'retrieval'.
The metaphor goes like this: There are two ways to get more hot water out of the shower. One way is to turn up the hot water. The other way is to turn down the cold water... Turning down the cold water can be a very efficient way to liberate more resources.
FLOOR PROCESSES
There are at least 12 Floor Processes that can deliver Healing, Initiatory, and Transformational results during a Possibility Coaching session. Each has its own purpose and procedure. They are called 'floor processes' because each of them is done with the Client lying down on a mattress. These Processes are bunched together as 'Floor Processes' because they can all be delivered during one-on-one online-or-offline Possibility Coaching sessions.
The 12 Floor Processes are (more info at the Floor Processes website):
- Stellating Anger (anger)
- Stellating Fear (fear)
- Relationship Space Cleanout (anger)
- Sexual Space Cleanout (anger)
- Entfaltungs Process (Unfolding) (Being)
- Diaphragm Process (fear)
- Dying Process (Being)
- Calling The Being Through (Being)
- Relocate Your Point Of Origin (Being)
- Birth Process (Being)
- Sexual Space Cleanout (anger and energetic clarity)
- Removing Other People's Fears (fear, anger, sadness, joy)
The way to prepare yourself to deliver any one of these Floor Processes is to do it once or twice yourself. The reason for doing it twice is that often times, when you do it the second time, you get it what actually happened the first time. This experiential clarity empowers you to Hold and Navigate the Space of that particular Floor Process journey because you know how it goes from the inside.These Floor Processes are often delivered during Possibility Labs.'PAST LIFE' PROCESSES
After Expand The Box training, a few Possibility Coaching sessions and a Possibility Lab or two, it is quite common that the Flux Point for a person to take their next evolutionary step originates in a 'past life'.
What does this even mean? What exactly are we talking about here? Excellent questions!
Fortunately we are NOT talking about or trying to explain or trying to understand what it could mean that: a Client's healing or breakthrough in this life occurs through facing into something that occurred in their 'past life'.
What we are doing is explaining a modality of interaction that creates quite profound and valuable clarity and possibility for the Client.
We have found while delivering Emotional Healing Processes since 1991 that using the framework and acting 'as if it is true' that what is occurring during a Client's process took place in a previous incarnation has the capacity to produce what one could only describe as 'miraculous' evolutionary and healing changes in their life.
There are so many stories to tell... Here is but one:
A man in his early thirties participates in a Possibility Lab together with his girlfriend. For the first couple days they engage the processes and exercises but nothing stands out about them. They came to the Lab because she wanted to get married and have children, but he keeps refusing, plus his business never quite gets off the ground. He also has a bump on the back of his neck since birth. The deformity has pained him his whole life no matter what the doctors, chiropractors, homeopaths, osteopaths, and energy healers did.
On the morning of the third day of the Possibility Lab, while sitting in the morning Circle, the Trainer notices that the man's left leg is still bouncing up and down. It has been jiggling like that the whole training. The Trainer asks everyone to help him Hold Space, and when they agree, he asks the man to let the bouncing get bigger, to stop holding it back. "We are ready to receive the communication from your bouncing left leg," he says.
The man says nothing but his leg starts bouncing more severely. Soon it is reaching far into the air and pounding onto the floor of the training room. He desperately holds onto the chair. The Trainer asks for help to move the man off the chair and onto a mattress in the center of the circle. He asks the man to let any associated feelings come up, allowing the sounds and words to come out. "Don't hurt yourself. Don't hurt anyone else. Do you agree?" says the Trainer. The man agrees. Then the man starts wildly flailing about the mattress screaming, "No! No! Stop!" as he expresses a massive mix of rage, fear, and sadness.
The Trainer asks the man to stay in the feelings at around 30% intensity and to answer the Trainer's questions, even if the man feels like he is making the answers up. "Is it day time, or night time?" asks the Trainer. "Nearly dusk," says the man. "Are you inside or outside?" asks the Trainer. "Outside, in the field near our village," says the man. Through further such questions, the following story emerges.
The man is the Mayor of a small farming town. Somehow they are warned that the conquerors are coming. The Mayor makes an emergency action to have everyone evacuate the village and go up into the cave at the base of the mountains just past the fields. His wife and children are among those who drop everything and run for the cave. In the distance they can hear the pounding hooves of the evil conquerors charging into their village. But the men do not stop to pillage and burn as expected. Instead they ride entirely through the town. Peering from the mouth of the cave the Mayor sees his mistake. As the townspeople hurried across the field to the cave they trampled the crops and left an unmistakable track indicating to the raiders exactly where the townspeople were hiding.
Immediately the Mayor snatches the white apron from his wife and fashions a white flag on a walking stick. He runs down out of the cave towards the charging army waving the flag of truce and surrender, hoping to negotiate a manageable payoff for the invaders. But they have their eyes on another treasure, the women and children. They don't even slow down for the Mayor. The leader pulls out his sword and slices off the Mayor's head as he rides by. The last scene that the Mayor sees is the horsemen riding up into the cave full of screams from his family and the villagers.
In that moment (long ago, in a galaxy far, far away) the Mayor makes life-shaping decisions. The Trainer says, "As you lie there dying, watching your family and village get wiped out, what did you decide?" The man sobs and cries with screams of fear and rage, "I will never marry again because I cannot protect my wife. I will never have a family again because I cannot save my children. I will never take a leadership position again because I make bad decisions, and the whole village suffers. I cannot be trusted as a leader." While he screams out his past life vows, everyone in the room hears bone crunching sounds coming from the man's neck. He screams in pain and confusion.
After a while, things settle down. The Trainer asks, "Are any of these old decisions influencing your life today?" The man says, "Yes. All of them." The Trainer asks, "Would you like to make any new decisions?" The man says, "Yes." The Trainer asks, "What would your new decisions be?" Together they negotiate realistic new decisions.
During check-in after lunch the man reports with tears pouring down his cheeks, "I want to tell you something. My neck is better. The bump at the back of my neck is completely gone. I don't know what to say. I cannot really believe it. The bump has been there since I was born, and it hurt the whole time. Now the back of my neck is smooth and there is no pain at all."
A year later we accidentally meet this man on the street. We ask him how he is doing. He says, "I am married. My girlfriend and I got married. We have one child and a second one is on the way. My neck does not hurt. The bump never came back. And my business is flying."
Miracles like this... in inexplicable abundance.
MIND MACHINES
We have discovered that one Survival Strategy is to install a Mind Machine, usually located between the ear and the brain, sometimes located between the brain and the mouth, sometimes both places, sometimes even with different types of Mind Machines.
You may installed have a Mind Machine in your own mind...
We have distinguished several different kinds of Mind Machines, for example, the Time Delay. Someone asks you a question or says something challenging or dangerous to you. The words enter your Time Delay Mind Machine. You don't even hear the words for 15 to 30 seconds later, so at first you seem stupid, completely unresponsive, and eventually what you might say is so out of synchrony with what is happening around you 30 seconds later that you seem harmless, powerless, not dangerous... so they do not have to kill you. You are safe! The Mind Machine worked to save your life.
However, later on in life (after being 18 years old) having a Mind Machine becomes an expensive burden to carry around with you. It essentially blocks you from the Present, and therefore from Adulthood.
Mind Machines can be bypassed with a short-circuit, then after 6 months of disuse they dissolve into nothingness.
Bypassing a Mind Machine is a Self Surgery, meaning that you do the surgery on yourself - using the same capability you used to install it in the first places. However, the Self Surgery works far better - quicker and more certainly - if you have a Space Holder who can walk you through the procedure while you do it.
Other style Mind Machines include Fog Horn, Confusion, Switch Around, Sleep Wave, Complexify, etc. It is best to study the Mind Machine website and get with someone who has done the self-surgery on themselves already before you try to do it on yourself or anyone else. But definitely do the Mind Machine Surgery. It has changed so many people's lives already.
EVERYBODY HAS LITTLE WEIRD THINGS GOING ON THAT ARE SO IMPORTANT TO CHECK
During Possibility Coaching sessions I have spoken with Clients about knacks and weird experiences they have that modern culture and especially modern schooling neither understands nor respects. Yet diving into and through these bizarre formulations with them has unfolded so much new potential for their life. For example, in the last week alone I found:
- A person who accompanies rabbits listening to Sage Brush songs in the desert all day long.
- A person who sees and talks to ghostly apparitions and receives long-ignored messages from them.
- A person who built a bizarre memetic machine into their energetic body to compress themselves into a freezing cold lifeless ball so that their alcoholic step-father does not judge their aliveness as stupid and crazy, then use that as an excuse to beat and yell at their mother.
- A person who cut themselves off from their magic in order to be allowed into ordinary circles.
- And so on.
Your job is to create Clarity and Possibility for your Client no matter what the weirdness factor of the world they live in. If you get hints of such things going on for a person, put them on the table to explore with your Client. Make a safe place and take a look at these things together. Find out what is really going on and what needs to be completed or transformed.
EXPAND THE BOX TRAINING
If your Client has not participated in Expand The Box training before their Possibility Coaching session with you, then most of their first dozen or so Possibility Coaching sessions will probably be occupied with learning the Expand The Box skills of Centering, Conscious Feelings, Conscious Communications, Inner Navigation, Liquid States, etc.
If your Client participates in a three-to-five-day Expand The Box training, and when possible, some Possibility Labs before coming to you, they will have already upgraded a lot of their Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware, and they will have Built Matrix to hold and apply their new awarenesses. This way they will more powerfully make use of the benefits of Possibility Coaching, Possibility Mediation, Possibility Psychology, Memetic Engineering, or Feelings Practitioner sessions with you.
Demonstration Videos Team
The four Possibility Coaches shown below have collected over 100 videos of actual Possibility Coaching sessions online. Their Clients have previously participated in at least one Expand The Box training, and perhaps also one or more Possibility Labs.
Our purpose is to demonstrate the profound quality of healing and evolutionary steps which can be taken using the thoughtmaps, tools, distinctions, and processes of Possibility Management during Emotional Healing Processes. We want to widely share the treasures we have discovered to make them available for all of humanity.
We are immensely grateful to the Clients for your courageous collaboration!
Patricio Diaz
Located in New York City.
Languages: English, Spanish.
Demonstration Videos Warnings
We estimate that studying the videos shown below will be inestimably valuable both for professional Possibilitators, as well as for viewers who are on an authentic evolutionary Path.
Possibility Coaches, Possibility Mediators, Possibility Psychologists, Memetic Engineers, Feelings Practitioners, and 3 Phase Healers may benefit from observing the applications of many Possibilitator distinctions, tools, and processes, including:
- Holding Space and Navigating to Extraordinary Space
- Distinguishing between Feelings and Emotions
- Unmixing Emotions
- Completing Incomplete Emotions
- Speaking From The Unknown
- Making Nonlinear and Unreasonable Offers
- Using Vacuum Learning
- Removing Blocks
- Staying Unhookable
- Distinguishing Low Drama from High Drama, and
- Being the Space through which Bright Principles and Archetypal Lineage can do their work in the world.
Possibility Coaching Clients can observe the courage of so many individuals to face into the shadowy places in their psyche. By watching the videos you can accompany these Clients on their journey of Discovering what is really going on, while at the same time they Build Matrix to hold new skills, and gain Distinctions for transforming their hidden wounds into valuable milestones in their personal development Path.
There is so much to gain from Decontaminating your Adult Ego State from Parental Voices, Childhood Fears, and Gremlin Shenanigans. A new future awaits you on the other side of every Doorway that is discovered and opened during your Emotional Healing Processes. Since each Process is unique and there is no 'method' in Possibility Coaching, you cannot predict (control) what will happen for you, but at the same time you can gain a sense of the value of Possibility Coaching.
IMPORTANT NOTE: These videos are authentic unrehearsed personal healing and transformation processes. They are not recommended viewing for anyone under 18 years of age. If you watch any of these videos you are under your own recognizance. While watching any of these videos there is a good chance that you will feel something. We are, after all, human beings. We have 5 Bodies and so much in common that one person's trauma could easily remind you of your own traumatic life situations, even if you do not at this moment remember - and could never imagine - that such a thing might have happened to you.
PLEASE DO NOT WATCH ANY OF THESE VIDEOS UNLESS YOU ARE AT LEAST 18 YEARS OLD, and until you take Radical Responsibility for your own experiences, Stories, Reactivity, Feelings, Emotions, Projections, Beliefs, Expectations, Resentment, fears, memories, etc.
You have now been warned.
Thousands of people around the world have helped to develop these healing and transformational possibilities since 1975.
Possibility Management is not a sect or a cult, a religion, a political party, a corporation, or a multilevel marketing scam.
Possibilitator Training is an authentic Path of Adult and Archetypal Healing and Initiations... It is thoughtware for next culture - Archiarchy: the culture that naturally emerges after Matriarchy and Patriarchy have run their course.
#1 Couple Coaching Demonstration - Clinton Callahan 2015
Coach: "Woman cannot come Alive until Man Holds Space and puts 100% of his centered, adult-man attention on her... Bringing the Warrior home, Holding Space, and Listening with clarity and precision."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AoN3O6iZ_TA
In English with live German translation by Marion Lutz. (16 min)
In englischer Sprache mit deutscher Übersetzung von Marion Lutz.
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#2 Possibility Couple Coaching Demonstration - Clinton Callahan - July 2015
Coach: "Who are you? Why are you doing it this way?"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0i0-Xc75vM
In English with live German translation by Marion Lutz. English subtitles. (27 min)
In englischer Sprache mit deutscher Live-Übersetzung von Marion Lutz. Englische Untertitel.
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#3 Possibility Coaching demonstration - Memetic Engineering - Clinton Callahan 6 March 2015
Demonstration with a volunteer from the audience during a public talk in Berlin, Germany.
Client: "My fears stop me from connecting..."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kCBTS3g5IMQ
In English with live German translation by Marion Lutz. (11 min)
In englischer Sprache mit deutscher Übersetzung von Marion Lutz.
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#4 Possibility Coaching demonstration - Past Life Process